Using essential oils for sex has been something our ancestors have enjoyed for thousands of years. Since biblical times essential oils have been a part of the lover's rituals from the Song of Solomon…
When it comes to striking a specifically sexy chord, heady scents like patchouli, vetiver, or sandalwood are known for having sensual connotations. If you're new to using essential oils but want to bring them into the bedroom, start with these three. Or, if you and your partner connect certain smells to your relationship, seek those out while shopping for essential oils — after all, scents can be powerful memory triggers.
- "Your oils have a pleasing fragrance. Your name is like purified oil; Therefore, the maidens love you." (Song of Solomon 1:3)
- "How fair is thy love, my sister, my bride! How much better is thy love than wine! And the fragrance of thine oils than all manner of spices!" (Song of Solomon 4:10)
Aromatherapy (the science of using essential oils and fragrances as mood enhancers and to promote physical wellbeing) seems like a western fad. Still, Islamic history is rich with references of musk, frankincense, bukhoor and other beautiful scents.
In a Hadith, the Prophet is reported to have said:
"Made beloved to me from your world are women and perfume, and the coolness of my eyes is in prayer." (Ahmad and An-Nasa' i).
Enjoying a vibrant and robust sex drive is healthy. Sadly, low, low libido and erectile dysfunction affect more people than you can imagine. Men of all ages suffer from these symptoms; it is not just older men. This I know from experience. And watching a lot of porn does not help either.
If you can relate to this, it's essential to realize that sexual desire is the product of many factors and natural therapies like essential oils for sex can help boost libido as few things can!
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YOU'RE NOT ALONE
Before we dive into the best essential oils for sex, the first thing to understand is that you are not alone. For men, low libido often culminates in erectile dysfunction, which ranges in prevalence from 5% in younger men to 25% in men over 65. In women, low libido is common in all stages of life, thanks to fluctuating hormones.
Suffering from low libido periodically or chronically is nothing to be ashamed of. Bringing your concerns into the open with your spouse can start the path toward health, intimacy, and resolution. We hope to help you and your and partner to support each other with no judgement or criticism and find a loving solution for you with the help of essential oils.
LOW LIBIDO & ERECTILE DYSFUNCTION CAUSES
Causes of low libido and erectile dysfunction vary from person to person and range from lifestyle influences to severe disorders. Some of the most prevalent factors include:
- Stress – One of the most basic yet most difficult causes of low libido to fix, being stressed out and overtired can put a damper on the mood. Stress over relationship issues such as raising the kids, money, and house concerns, can lead to a lack of intimacy and hinder libido as well. Most pressure can be relieved with simple lifestyle changes.
- Drinking Alcohol – An often overlooked cause of sexual dysfunction, alcohol can be a stressor of its own. While contemporary advice says to utilize juice to relax, it could have the opposite effect and ruin efforts toward libido increase.
- Hormones – Here's where it gets complicated. The body's network of hormone responses (the Endocrine system) creates long-term messages for the body to respond to. So they aren't quick to fix. Hormones are connected to causes like stress, ageing, disease, and menstrual discomfort, pregnancy, and menopause-related libido issues. When hormones are at the root of libido issues, expect change to come progressively over time.
6 ESSENTIAL OILS FOR SEX
As gentle and relaxing aromas, these oils can be used in diffusions, sprays, topical applications and more. Get creative to see how you can boost libido by incorporating these essential oils for sex into both your daily life and romantic life. I recommend creating a mix with a carrier oil. Start at the feet and move your way up to the heart centre.
ROSE Essential Oil
As an anxiety-relieving, calming oil, it comes as no surprise that rose essential oil is also traditionally used as an aphrodisiac. As a pricey oil, though, rose is most efficiently used in blends or massive dilutions.
Application: Blend into a perfume to carry this romantic floral scent with you, or diffuse periodically throughout the day for both partners to enjoy.
JASMINE Essential Oil
A precious and pricey oil derived from delicate flower petals, jasmine has proven itself well in studies. Researchers tested alertness and "behavioural arousal" after topical treatment of jasmine oil. The participants were found to be more refreshed, with their senses on alert.
Application: Apply jasmine topically in a perfume or sensual massage oil for men and women. Note that the delicate petals sometimes require the use of a solvent to extract the oil. Check labels carefully, especially for organic certification.
CLARY SAGE Essential Oil
A 2014 study undertook the question of menopause symptom relief and essential oils. They found that merely inhaling hormone-balancing clary sage essential oil had an anti-depressant effect on menopausal women. When libido is low due to hormonal shifts like menopause, clary sage is a balancer that may bring some relief.
Application: Diffuse or inhale periodically to relax, balance hormones, and get in the mood.
YLANG YLANG Essential Oil
Ylang ylang is widely used as an aphrodisiac throughout the aromatherapy world and is one of the best essential oils for sex. Its gentle floral scent is appealing to nearly everyone, and its application potential is diverse. Enjoy with other botanical oils or deepen the fragrance with sandalwood.
Application: Diffusion, inhalation, or diluted into a carrier oil as a massage oil for both men and women.
NEROLI Essential Oil
The essential oil derived from orange blossoms instead of the fruit's peel is called neroli, a precious and beneficial oil. In one clinical trial, researchers found that "inhalation of neroli oil helps relieve menopausal symptoms, increase sexual desire, and reduce blood pressure in postmenopausal women," making it another convenient option when libido is low due to hormones or stress.
Application: Diffusion or inhalation a couple of times each day for calming, balancing effects.
FENNEL Essential Oil
As a whole herb, "Fennel seeds have been reputed to increase milk secretion, promote menstruation, facilitate birth and alleviate the symptoms of the female climacteric, increase libido and alleviation of the dysmenorrheal symptoms." Fennel essential oil retains some of these estrogenic effects, making it a beneficial addition to your libido-increasing, hormone-balancing diffusion or massage blends.
Application: Include essential fennel oil in DIY lotion blends or massage oils for balancing effects.
Men and women of all ages have faced low libido and have found hope and renewal. There is no shame in admitting the struggle and seeking a solution! As a bonus, openness and partnership in finding a remedy or resolution as a couple will help to increase intimacy, as well.
To relieve the stresses of everyday life, boost libido and begin to ignite a spark with your significant other, try this DIY libido-boosting blend diffused or diluted into a carrier oil (almond or coconut are excellent!) for a soothing massage. Blend:
- Two drops neroli (or sweet orange)
- Two drops jasmine
- Two drops ylang ylang
Directly into an ultrasonic diffuser (you could alternatively add this blend to an inhaler).
To use this blend topically, add one drop of each of these oils to a 10ml roll-on bottle and fill the remaining space with your carrier oil of choice. A light carrier oil, like fractionated coconut oil, is an excellent choice for this kind of application. Apply your finished roll on to your pulse points and make it sexy and give your partner a food massage and watch the magic come alive.
When it comes to essential oils for sex, ylang-ylang, clary sage, rose and jasmine is go-to oils that can be safely used as long as their dermal cautions are observed and make great options for massage oils.
- For either ylang ylang or jasmine, use two drops per tablespoon of carrier oil.
- For clary sage, use six drops per tablespoon of carrier oil.
- For the rose, apply one drop per tablespoon of carrier oil.
We hope you liked our latest Sexy Saturday to boost the libido of women and men. It is all about spreading life wellbeing naturally and tapping into Self Care solutions. Now go out there and love yourself and follow us on Instagram for more tips on essential oils. Now go make love.